Ashley Madison DOES work, but keep expectations realistic…

There absolutely ARE real women on Ashley Madison. I was one. My personal experience is that it can work out quite well. There are some truly terrific men on the site. I was surprised to find so many attractive, intelligent men who could really carry on a great conversation. I found one that worked out perfectly. Though he’s since moved out of state, we still keep in touch. For me, the site was a success. That being said, I’ve also encountered some guys who were pretty unpleasant about not being chosen. These few bad apples can make A.M. seem threatening to women, resulting in some of them leaving the site. As many women have stated, you men have a LOT of competition. We get literally hundreds of messages. If you do not make an effort to stand out your messages will not be answered. We’re not lazy, as one poster stated. It’s just that there are so many men writing that it would amount to a full time job to answer every single message. No one wants to come to dating site and f
eel like it’s “work.” It might provide some perspective if these guys were to ask themselves this question; if the situation was reversed, and they had several hundred women to choose from, would they spend several hours each day writing back to each middle aged housewife who showed a slight interest or would they concentrate on a few of the most attractive, most compatible choices? Women are not that much different in this respect. We’re trying to find the perfect match for our own needs, just as the men are. If our dream date turns out not to be you it’s nothing personal. There are probably women on the site that aren’t your cup of tea as well. Maybe there is another lady waiting in the wings who will think you’re the man she’s been waiting for. If you’re not receiving any replies at all, my advice would be to make some effort to “up your game.” Maybe your profile doesn’t reveal enough personality and could use some tweaking. Perhaps your specific location is flooded with
men seeking women. It might help to try widening your range to neighboring areas. Just please keep in mind that we women did not join the site specifically to hurt anyone’s feelings. We’re here for the same reasons as the men, to find some much needed fulfillment.