Probably the single greatest reason that I hear former customers of AshleyMadison.com call "foul" is because they feel that they were cheated out of their money by "robots" and "fake profiles." They generally go to the website to have an affair and find that they don't get a response or limited responses to their messages. The conclusion after this experience is that the site must be a scam. Ashley Madison has responded to the allegations of being a scam.
Some believe these complaints to be valid and other don't so I'd like to delve into a little research to help you reach your own decision.
Their response is this:
"Like any other online dating service, AshleyMadison.com isn't going to work for everyone but if you follow the guidelines we lay out for you, we GUARANTEE that you will successfully find what you're looking for or we'll give you your money back."
There are many possibilities:
- Other entities and people are joining Ashley Madison and using these profiles to facilitate Nigerian scams. The scams have become more and more sophisticated and complex and/or;
- Their tips could be correct and many users simply aren't approaching the site in the correct way to be successful. We hear all the success stories in the news and there is evidence that many don't know how to approach women on online dating sites.
Let me know what you think in your comments below or just checkout Ashley Madison yourself to make up your own mind.
While I've had mixed results on AM, including some actual encounters...I don't like the idea of being scammed and have also questioned the validity of the profiles after using the site for so long (2yr veteran). I could see it either way.
I'm a female member of Ashley Madison and its real alright. My problem is I get a lot of messages a day and can't keep up with all of them. Nor do I try. It would consume my life. Men, you have to at least write a personal message. If not, I delete it right away. If you can't bother to send me a thoughtful message, I'm not going to bother replying to it.
Then you have to have a pic or you get deleted next. And last, you have to say something to get my attention, not the same thing 80% of the other men are saying. That's boring and I'll delete you. If you survive all that and I feel interested, I may be in touch.
Scam? No. Boring Messages? Too many.
I don't even look at the winks. Too many. I just delete them without even looking at them.
With all that being said, good luck in your endeavors and maybe who knows!
I've had mixed results. I joined like 3 years ago and have been periodically active. I've managed to find two situations that lasted a little while. I'm back again to find the next one.
I was glad to see a female member chime in, and hope to find more comments from women. I have to say, it can be VERY DISPIRITING for a guy there. Every message I send is personalized, original (I think. I'm a professional writer.), and I've got a strong profile and good photos. Yet I'm lucky to hear back once out of every 20 messages.
Even an occasional "thanks but no thanks" would help.
Persistence is key. But it sure can get depressing.