Ashley Madison Scam? Member Experiences Married Dating Information

'Sad wifes' won't contact Nick. Are these married women real?

2010-10-19T20:06:19Z

This poster says he's done with Ashley Madison...but if the women aren't responding, I have to wonder what he's sending to them. If his grammar here is any indication, he's not winning any points in the literacy department.

"i dunno if Ashely Madison is a scam, but I didn't get any women responding to me over an entire month. it seems like there are hundereds on there... lots of sad wifes who seem ready for sexual encounters... but none of them contacted me. Im done with this....but, what am I'm going to do about this? My wife just isn't doing it for me anymore.right?"

I did hear about a new service that Ashley Madison started called "Down Low", I have never had a man give me a blow job before, but it could bring the level of sucking that Ashley Madison does, to a new level.

- Nick in Toronto

From DM: Ashley Madison - Cautious Women. Another Site: Aggressive Women

2010-08-24T14:23:23Z

My name is Discrete-Male and I joined Ashley Madison about six months ago. I started off with buying the "Affair Guarantee package" since it was the best deal for the money. I have used my credits wisely and still have quite a bit remaining, after all 1,000 credits goes a long way. In all honesty, I decided to take a break from fishing for a while on there. Because my credits have no expiration date, I decided to try out another website that I found. I decided that it was foolish to not be able to try multiple genres of websites out. I found this really cool website that deals with "mutually beneficial relationships" and arrangements, called... you got it, "Arrangement Finders".

I honestly couldn't believe how many gorgeous and aggressive women were on the website looking for stable successful men like me. Ashley Madison's website is all about having discrete affairs, but because of that aspect, the women are highly unlikely to post a picture or fill out their profiles, so it appears all of the profiles are fake. It is really no fault of Ashley Madison's that women are extra careful about having affairs, in fact I applaud them. The women are very selective in finding a male and since they are in marriages, I understand that they are not going to risk their marriage for a man who brings nothing more to than table than what she already has at home, or even risk their marriage for someone like me who does have plenty to offer. I have had success on Ashley and it has been worth the wait.

I am a young, athletic, and professional married man who decided that sometimes money can buy everything, and I can catch one big fish on Ashley or I can catch 20 smaller fish on Arrangement Seekers. I am not a cheapskate and don't mind paying for another membership to be able to fish on both websites. I am glad I decided to move my fishing location to Arrangement Seekers , it was worth the money for finding women actually interested in having a mutually beneficial relationship with me. I travel all of the time for work and am easily able to change my profile's location to find women in each city I visit like Los Angeles, Dallas, and New York to take out for dinner, drinks, and some between the sheet fun. These women are the total polar opposite of the women on Ashley, these women are straight up forward and to the point and mean business. After all, a mutually beneficial relationship or mutually beneficial arrangement is more like a business deal than anything else. There are plenty of websites out there, but see for yourself. I think both websites offer great value for the cost of a membership, why not have the best of both worlds?

Is Ashley Madison a scam? Does Ashley Madison suck?

2010-06-11T03:25:32Z

Probably the single greatest reason that I hear former customers of AshleyMadison.com call "foul" is because they feel that they were cheated out of their money by "robots" and "fake profiles." They generally go to the website to have an affair and find that they don't get a response or limited responses to their messages. The conclusion after this experience is that the site must be a scam. Ashley Madison has responded to the allegations of being a scam.

Some believe these complaints to be valid and other don't so I'd like to delve into a little research to help you reach your own decision.

Their response is this:

"Like any other online dating service, AshleyMadison.com isn't going to work for everyone but if you follow the guidelines we lay out for you, we GUARANTEE that you will successfully find what you're looking for or we'll give you your money back."

There are many possibilities:

Other entities and people are joining Ashley Madison and using these profiles to facilitate Nigerian scams. The scams have become more and more sophisticated and complex and/or;
Their tips could be correct and many users simply aren't approaching the site in the correct way to be successful. We hear all the success stories in the news and there is evidence that many don't know how to approach women on online dating sites.

Let me know what you think in your comments below or just checkout Ashley Madison yourself to make up your own mind.

Beware the wives

2010-06-06T12:27:15Z

Make sure the hot girl messaging you isn't doing research of her own:

I was considering joining after being a guest member for a couple of weeks and a collect email came. I decided to check their Terms and Conditions and they basically admit to everything charged on your page. I was suspicious that a hot girl would have her picture on her profile, and it turned out she was a scorned wife trying to catch her husband doing the deed. If it looks too good to be true, it probably is!

"Members try to SCAM Ashley Madison"

2010-06-05T01:06:07Z

I disputed a charges one time with AM. AM sent copies all of my emails via my AMX statement. I had to be careful to make sure my wife wouldn't read them!

name-with held(sorry)

Editor:

Ashley Madison says they're all about discretion and I've never heard that they've violate this promise except in this case when someone disputes charges (can you blame them?). When you make an Ashley Madison purchase, your credit card will be discretely billed which makes it hard to get caught through your statement. When you dispute a charge, the Ashley Madison has the opportunity to prove you made the purchase. If they can prove to the credit card company that you made the charges, the credit card company will send you proof showing why they will NOT reverse the charges.

In the above case it looks like the guy tried to dispute a charge he made, and got proven wrong. If you're married and trying to date, it's best to err on the side of discretion and avoid getting caught. Don't dispute the charges.

I'm not sure how anyone can expect to have AM not fight the disputed charges. If you are going to join a married dating service like Ashley Madison, lie to your partner or spouse but don't try to SCAM Ashley Madison because you significantly increase your chances of getting caught.

"Bogus Web Site OR Shy Members?"

2010-05-29T08:40:36Z

Hey!

I saw your web site and wanted to add my two cents. AM is NOT the biggest scam, Bernie Madoff sealed the fate on that title.

I joined up for a short while after two years off and realized that many of the women who are members on Ashley Madison usually join because they are curious, and not necessarily seeking to have an affair but are satisfying their curiosity about the subject. I have talked with many of these curious women who say that they are often times approached by men who completely offend them with sexual innuendoes and inappropriate remarks and it ruins the experience for them and causes them to delete their accounts before ever connecting with someone.

The fact that many men don't understand that women in relationships are not going to sabatoge their lives over a man/men who are degrading towards them. I have talked with many REAL women on Ashley Madison, and plan to continue to use the service for many more years to come. In fact the men who don't know how to approach and treat the women on the website properly, gives the rest of us a bad rap.

"Taken In by Ashley Madison's Affair GUARANTEEs"

2010-05-24T08:23:37Z

Thanks for starting the blog; I was taken in by Ashley Madison's affair guarantee. I had to see what the hype was all about.

In the beginning; I sent an e-mail sent to a member, right after I upgraded my account. I had sent out 4 e-mail requests for contact in my local area. 3 contacts never logged back into their accounts, all said 7+ days from last log in, the other had logged in 5+ days earlier. I realized that having an affair is like fishing, sometimes you don't catch anything, but you never give up trying. I still have lots of credits and will keep on fishing until I get that bite.

I'm an average guy looking for some fun and thought going through one of these dating websites would help to break the ice, since places like eHarmony and Match won't allow this type of service.

"I forgot about my account and my credits were still there after a year!!"

2010-05-23T00:20:33Z

So about a year ago I was having trouble with my relationship and thought I would try to maybe find someone else in the same position. Ashley sounded like a pretty good way of going about that so I signed up. After the first day I was having a hard time trying to connect with women and I wasn't quite sure why. I was bummed that it was going to take more work to find someone than I initially expected. I tried with little success and honestly kind of forgot about my account.

I am single now and thought "Hey, I should go back to Ashley and blow the rest of those credits." So, I sent off about 5 emails to profiles that were vacant. When I say vacant, I mean no photo, no descriptions, the profiles looked fake. And here is the BEST PART... I got several responses. I had to wait to get photographs of them after a few exchanges, many women hardly ever put photos up or they're private photos. Some people cry about Ashley Madison having many scam profiles (I guess Nigerian scam profiles?), I have flagged a few odd profiles and many have been deleted. Ashley Madison is not a scam, but there are scammers which it looks like AM is trying to fight.

Guess what?

I blew all my credits, but I RENEWED because I found real women and realized that they are not a scam. Ashley clearly states that the first email will cost you credits, but after that it is free. Take your time when talking to these women, whats the rush?

"Serious Cheater" Tells His Story

2010-05-20T17:34:01Z

Having just discovered this site I wish to share my views on the site with others. I have not used the site for say a few weeks and I patiently check back in to find new members and my credits are still there.

I'm sure the TV stations and newspapers promote them because people have been having affairs on the site. They wouldn't promote it otherwise, you'd think. I have had phone sex, cyber sex, and physical sex with members on the site, I will tell you it took a long time and a lot of patience, but I have several women who I have an affair with regularly.

-Serious Cheater

"Strike on Ashley Madison but Not Struck Out"

2010-05-14T01:25:25Z

S.D. Writes:

Since December, 2009 I have spent less than $100 and hours on Ashley Madison hoping to hook up with the right person. It took an incredible amount of patience and finally I was able to get one person to meet over a coffee. It did not lead to having an affair... YET, but it kept me interested in continuing my membership with them. It sucks that it takes so much work to meet a woman do but it seems to pay off and is probably worth the effort to avoid getting caught.

I am not some old, fat slob who should have trouble hooking up. I am 37, 5'6', 190 pounds and handsome. She was 45 5'10' and about 250 pounds. She was by no means a hottie, but she was sweet. I will let you know as soon as I do have an affair on Ashley Madison.

Ashley's Branching Out with other brands

2010-05-11T23:42:38Z

Ashley Madison and Cougar Life are apparently run by the same company, Avid

Life Media. Cougar Life targets older women seeking younger men. Many female readers have noted that their Ashley Madison account received an invitation to Cougar Life which, if accepted, will auto create an account on Cougar Life using their information and photos from Ashley Madison.

Pretty slick.

The founder of the site is a pretty hot self proclaimed cougar. Wouldn't mind meeting her. ;)

Here's the ad for Cougar Life:

Men to Women Ratio

2010-05-06T19:19:19Z

I'd like to take a moment to address something... I get a lot of email from people coming to this site, and every once in a while I get an email from a woman who will tell me how she has had no problem finding MEN on the AM website.

This is roughly equivalent to saying that you have no problem finding bees in a bee hive. If you go to a website jammed with men, finding men is not going to be an issue.

When it comes to extra marital affairs, it's obvious men will out number women. Ashley Madison doesn't even hide the fact that men out number women as seen in this old media piece:

Given this, women, you have your pick. Men, you have to bring your A-game. This stat probably isn't isolated to the site, if you want to cheat, you'll just have a lot fewer women to choose from.

"Ashley Madison biggest SCAM yet"

2010-04-23T00:42:20Z

NJ Writes:

Last night I came accoss a new site cougarlife.com which is all about cougar dating (older women, younger men).

Here is the deal.. go to AshleyMadison.com look at all the pics of girls not hiding their faces..

then go to cougarlife.com .. compare pics..

LOL to my surprise.. a lot are the same..

So that sure as hell tells you.. they are owned by the same Scammers..

Thanks

Editor Note: We have gotten emails from women on Ashley Madison saying they were invited to join Cougar Life. If they accept, their profiles automatically get copied to cougarlife (pictures and all). I think this pretty much addresses the whole "same profile" argument. Looks like Cougar Life is legit. Bring on the cougars!

Too Good To Be True?

2010-03-26T04:14:31Z

MVD writes:

I have to admit, it seemed too good to be true. A 19 old girl,

weighing 105 who checked off every desire, from bondage to threesome.

But hell, I wrote her a very witty note. No reply. Okay, I tried another, nothing. I uploaded a pix showing my six pack (not the kind from a liquor store). Zilch. Then I noticed I had used up my "credits". Then I get an email, saying I have a secret admirer. So I buy a bunch more credits, reply and she is off line, all in three minutes! I've gotten "virtual drinks" whatever those are (little pictures of martinis) presumably so I will send gifts back (which cost, by the way). Those gifts were sent by 4 different women, at the same time, from different parts of the US and none had their pictures posted. Oh, and I couldn't reply to any of them, cause they were blocked. Does that make any sense to you? That different women would contact me, only to block themselves from my return contact.

At least the people who work for AM are so stupid (probably outsourced to Bangladesh) that I caught on. DId you ever read the fine print to the contract? I finally did. It actually admits they will send fake profiles to me from time to time, as promotions!!!!!

DON"T JOIN THIS SCAM BUNCH!!

"2 Good 2 B True or Just No Class?!"

2010-02-06T22:22:27Z

I have to admit, it seemed too good to be true. A 32 yr old woman, weighing 155 who checked off every desire, from bondage to threesome. But hell, I wrote her a very witty note and she replied. I uploaded a pix showing my six pack (not the kind from a liquor store). I received even more replies. I eventually used up my "credits" after meeting several women, so I renewed.

So many women tell me about the men who approach them in a disrespectful and degrading manner. I guess having class pay dividends.

Im happy to be a member and you chumps just keep acting like jerks--makes it easier for me to connect.