I have been on the A.M. site for about two years, and I have met three men with whom I chose to have sex. I have chatted with and met many more men, but these three were the ones I had relationships with.
Two of these relationships lasted for
significant periods of time (one for six months and the other for a year). Both relationships were fun and ended well. No boundaries were crossed. I respected their discretionary needs and they respected mine. These relationships did not overlap. I am married and all three relationships were with married men.
In any case . . . I want to respond to the men who are frustrated because women do not always respond to their winks or messages. They should not take this personally. I stopped responding to these messages myself several months ago because there are men on the site who are rude when they are not selected. I used to try and respond to the men who took the time to send a message, but I have found that many of them are rude when rejected. I have had men I have never met say terrible things to me. It is because of this that I stopped responding. Why would I take the time to respond when someone out there might be rude when I do so?
Other than those few rude responses, I have met some really nice men on this site. I tend to be willing to chat longer with people who are respectful and who give me space. When men are pushy or disrespectful, I end our discussions. I am interested in having an affair to have fun 
. If you are looking to meet a woman on the site, hang in there. Realize that you might have to send a picture long before you see hers, and you might have to chat for several weeks before she wants to meet. If this is not for you, then I am not for you .
As a woman on this site, I truly am there to have sex with someone I WANT to have sex with. Just because you have a dick and you send me an email does not mean we will hit it off. I also realize that there are men who will not be into me. I will not be there type and this is fine . This is life, not a porn film.
Excellent observations. Thanks for sharing your experience and perspective. And your “just because you have a dick and send me an email does not mean we will hit it off” comment cracked me up. (46 yr old white male)
can we have some discreet fun
I am female and have been on the AM site also and have had the same exact experiences you have.
I also had very rude responses when I rejected a man, I was shocked by how rude some of these “men” were. To me it showed their immaturity.
You said it well, if the man is in too big of a hurry and won’t email back and forth awhile I’m gone. I am not rushing into something with someone I’m not sure about.