I have done a fair bit of online dating and have had quite a bit of success (Im a man by the way…). Im new to Ashley Madison and find it quite professional. I just think its insanely expensive but I guess there is always a price to pay.
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nows why some women aren’t interested? Why spend time pondering about it? Be polite, be nice and if you talk to enough women some will be interested. Im not losing sleep over no-responses…definitely not crying about it. Women don’t like cry babies…
I see myself as an average guy but Ive met quite a few women to date and have had a few affairs, all quite long and with stunning women. We all want the same thing. But you not going to catch a fish by throwing it with the bait.
I find online dating fun and have always parted ways with the women Ive met in a good way. So, ladies…you are diificult to catch…but the ones that are worth it usually are.
Who said its a man’s world…?
Why women may not respond.
As pointed out in some of these reviews from women, we get a lot of queries because there are fewer women on Ashley-Madison than there are men. The reason we don’t reply to many of the queries is partly a matter of money. I would love to say “Sorry, but you are out of town,” or “Sorry, but I don’t have a love nest,” or “Sorry, but I am temporarily taken, ” or “Sorry, but you seem to be part of that gigolo operation in Canada,” or “Sorry, but you are young enough to be my grandson.” I don’t send these polite replies because they cost points, and I don’t want to waste money.
So . . . please don’t take a non-response personally. It isn’t personal. It’s just practical. I would suggest that you read the woman’s profile carefully before you send out a query. In mine, for example, I state clearly that I would like you to be single (because I don’t have a love nest) and in my town (I don’t have time to commute). So if you don’t meet those two simple requirements, then you are not going to get an answer — even though I would prefer to be polite.
It’s probably in women’s best interest to have men think its justified to not respond, but… no. you should always respond, if for no other reasons than to refine your bad news delivery skills, and keep you in a better position to change your mind (do women do that?). (My particular experience must be very different. I don’t quite know why, but they always have in my case.)
Let me see if I can still be polite and respectfully argue that… no. money isn’t the reason (I think), because you can send collect messages (I think).
A man spends some money sending you a message, but the reason you feel it’s OK to “keep him hanging”, not even sending him a *collect* reply… I’m sorry, what did you say that reason was?
I will be less polite, and more direct about the website itself. I know how much money A.M. generates in revenue. I know how much it would cost to something as simple as retaining more than 20 sent messages, maintaining sent/reply threads per screen name etc. When comparing across web sites the ease(or lack thereof)of maintaining communication threads, A.M. *easily* bottoms out in the lowest 5%. You need to address this. You don’t know it yet, but you have well capitalized startup competition that will hit soon. Don’t make it easy for them. Don’t stay complacent. There are some very soft usability targets here.
Make the investment.
I think that AM could just take the market imbalance she doesn’t reply issue, permanently off the table, by allowing does- not-reply feedback.